White Weddings for Women
If you are having a traditional white wedding, perhaps you are a virgin and are about to experience your husband as a man for the first time that night. This is a huge step, one that you have probably both been waiting for with a great deal of excitement. There may be other emotions mixed in, however, and it is perfectly normal to be scared, nervous, or even uncomfortable about the idea of having sex for the first time.
One of the greatest sources of disappointment on a wedding night is the fact that people expect too much. If you are having a big, white wedding, then there is a lot of planning that happens first. You will have to arrange things with the church and the reception hall, and you will have to spend your time planning and practicing for the big day.However, the wedding night of a couple that is making love for the first time cannot be practiced; it can only be experienced.
However, to make your wedding night the best possible experience it can be, there are many positive things you can do.
The most important thing to do is talk to your fiancé ahead of time about what expectations you both may have for the wedding night. Talk about the possibility of being tired or nervous. Talk about love and intimacy .Talk about your comfort level and taking your time to cherish each other. Talk about wanting to make theentire honeymoon very special.
Don’t plan to romp with your new lover all night. You will both be exhausted after the reception. You will be, in essence, hosting one of the biggest parties of your life, and this is not to be underestimated – it is quite the feat. It requires time and energy to take care of all the little details on the day of your wedding, and you will have to spend a lot of time with your family and friends during the party as well. Expect to make many rounds visiting with your guests. On your wedding night, you might be so tired after the reception that you could fall asleep without even having sex at all. To prevent this from happening, you might want to consider leaving the reception early so you both will have time to relax or nap before you make love.
If you are planning on eating at the reception, you may be disappointed. Many couples find that they have time for little more than a few stolen nibbles here and there as they are herded from the bouquet toss to the first dance to the cake cutting with little time in between. You might also find that while you were saying hello to your guests and accepting congratulations, your place was cleared. This is what happened to a bride named Diana, who didn’t even have a chance to stop for a drink. “I must have opened six sodas in the first two hours of the reception. I would take one sip, walk away for a moment to take care of something, and it would vanish.”
If this happens, you may want to consider some flexibility (remember you have talked about this ahead of time). Change into some casual clothes and order in, whether that is room service and romance for two or just a pizza You can order room service ahead of time so it will be ready when you check in. But what if your new husband doesn’t want to eat or rest but wants to get started right away? Lovingly explain that anticipation increases the pleasure. You both want your first time to be special instead of either of you being tired or hungry. After your snack and your short nap, you will have all the time in the world for some erotic fun.. Spend a little extra time undressing one another and even trading massages.. You will appreciate one another more when you are both nourished and energized .
Birth control should have been planned for ahead of time, but if it was forgotten and you are not ready to have children, it may be time for a quick trip to the store. Pretty much any chain drug stores, grocery stores, or even the hotel concession area will have a selection of condoms to choose from.
Keep in mind that for most women, the first penetration can be very uncomfortable and even painful. Talk to your doctor ahead of time to find out what can be done to alleviate most of the discomfort. There might also be a bit of blood, so be sure that you put something down to protect the bed, even if only a towel.
After the initial discomfort, sex can become much more pleasant. Be sure that you communicate to your new husband to help him figure out what you like best so that you can both enjoy sex for the wonderful thing that it is. The first time is about lovingly committing to one another and it can be a wonderful experience for both of you.